So it has been a while since I have written and I'm sure many of you have been wondering what is going on. Last I had posted we were planning to do egg donor and raising money toward that. How things can change so quickly. About 15 weeks ago we were confronted with a decision. My older sister Misi found out she was pregnant and offered us the little gem in adoption. We were caught off guard at first but naturally accepted such a marvelous gift. This quickly changed our focus from getting all the tests and run up on the egg donor to finding an agency and discovering the adventure that is required for adoption. This has abruptly altered our lives for the better. We are now working with Bethany Christian Services to bring home our little bundle of joy. With this journey comes a ton of interesting challenges.
Our first challenge was obviously the financial. We had done well with our first fudge sale. Thank to the love and generosity of family and friends we earned over 2000 dollars to put toward our goal. However, the adoption is going to cost us in the upwards of 18,000 dollars. Graciously my lovely company QVC will pay up to 10,000 after the adoption is finalized. (that is such a relief)
Second challenge is book reading. I know parenting is difficult and that parenting an adopted child can come with its own challenges but the books they put out are just a bit boring. Having to read book that don't really have story lines and plots tends to lose my interest rather quickly. Being required to read four books in a little time frame all speaking on the same subject is a bit tough for me. Yes if it were R.A. Salvatore or the Game of Thrones series I would probably have them at least half read by now.
Our biggest challenge is the fear of the unknown. So much of life can change when you have a child, or so I've heard. I'm not all that scared about having a child in the house. I know my sleep habits will change, how we spend our spare time will change, but the effects of a child on relationships is my biggest fear. Many times when a family grows it develops new circles of friends and the old ones can be left behind. Parents usually tend to gravitate toward the other parents. People who do not have children can be pushed out due to the sudden lack of common interest. I don't have any problem with adding friends but I hope that it doesn't change the current relationships too much. Adopting within the family can cause some interesting changes as well. I fear there can be strain with family on not seeing the child enough, thinking we should raise him a certain way, or any multitude of issues that can come between families. All these can be worked through with time and understanding that everyone wants the best for the child but it is a fear.
The greatest thing is that we are going to gain a baby that we can pour our abundance of love into and care for.
On March 18th we will update you on the gender and any plans we have from there. There is a chance of multiple baby showers, in Pennsylvania as well as Massachusetts. We can't thank everyone enough for the support and encouragement. We love you all and know that the baby will feel loved all around.
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